Casual Pear Looks | Fashion Friday

Weekends are a luscious time to relax and recharge and that’s even more enjoyable when you feel cute! If you are still working from home like me, you might actually see more people on the weekend than during the week. Saturday trips to the supermarket are an opportunity to show off your style and personality – go for it!

As lipedema ladies we tend to be bottom heavy pear shapes, so just remember to draw attention upward to balance your proportions. A few weeks ago I did that with a bold patterned blazer, but this week I’m doing it with a graphic t-shirt. In honor of International Women’s Day earlier this week, I chose my Feminism is for Everybody shirt but any slogan or graphic you love will do the trick to draw attention up. Since my outfit is monochrome, I added a shiny magenta skinny belt from Torrid to add a pop of color and also break up my silhouette.

To elongate my legs, I then added a dark shoe. In the first version that’s a basic pointed toe ballet flat, but it also works with a sneaker wedge or a regular sneaker. My flat and wedge are both from Torrid. (Nope, no affiliate links in this post!)

You could stop there, but as mentioned last week, I love accessories. I also love jackets and, while it’s warming up, it’s not yet t-shirt weather in DC. If you are going to brunch you might throw on a jean jacket, wedge, and chunky bangle. If you are going grocery shopping you might grab a light-colored hooded sweatshirt and sneaker. The key with the jacket is to choose something in a lighter color than whatever color your pants are – remember black or dark wash skinny jeans will be particularly flattering. Yes, even with lipedema.

Looking for some fun t-shirts or cute spring jackets? Check out ThredUp! I can’t stop telling people how much I love it. You can buy used clothes – many new with tags – for super low prices. In fact, the white sweatshirt I’m wearing above is from J. Crew but I bought it for $12 on ThredUp. Shopping and sizing can be hard for us, but on ThredUp you can shop for something like a graphic t-shirt in a specific size and color across more brands than you can count. Need more inspiration? Press play on Thrift Shop by Macklemore and Ryan Lewis.

What are you waiting for?! Dive into your closet and find something cute to wear this weekend. It’s guaranteed to boost your mood, whether sitting on the couch or out shopping for keto goodies.

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Accessorizing Your Pear Shape | Fashion Friday

Accessories can make or break an outfit and are a great way to balance proportions.  In the last Fashion Friday I talked about using patterned tops to draw attention upward on pear-shaped bodies.  This week I’ll show you how I accomplish the same thing with scarves.

I’ve always had a thing for scarves!  The first apartment I ever rented was the second floor of an old Victorian house.  A staircase opened into the middle of the living room and my colorful scarf collection adorned most of the sprawling banister, one part rainbow and one part flock of tropical birds.  These days I settle for a basket in the corner, but it’s still a large basket. 

What I love about scarves is the versatility.  They can be casual or dressy, playful or professional, and they never go out of season or style.  Look at my photo at the top of the post.  I changed the whole look of each outfit just by adding a different scarf!  There are a million different ways to tie scarves and YouTube has a lot of great tutorials you can play with.  My go-to is to just wrap it around my neck, but I’ve also played with the “flight attendant” look a lot lately and it’s fun for warmer weather.  ThredUp is a great place to build a high-end yet budget-friendly scarf collection (nope, there are no affiliate links in this post!) but some of the ones in this post also came from other love, Target. 

Notice that aside from the scarf, the rest of the outfit is rather neutral.  I pair a dark skinny jean with chocolate brown knee boots to downplay my lower half and top it off with a light brown moto jacket that hits right at my waist.  The lighter color automatically draws the eye up and helps balance the proportion and the wide lapel creates additional structure and interest.  Pop on a brightly colored scarf and voila!  You have a chic, flattering outfit that draws attention to your beautiful face. 

Please remember skinny jeans are for every body.  They will do more for your figure than baggy bootcuts ever can. Yes, I am also wearing my favorite CZSalus compression under these. When you feel great you will look great and my compression leggings ensure I accomplish both on a daily basis.

I love jewelry so I usually also add some sort of bangle no matter what I’m wearing.  In this outfit I’m wearing a beautiful leather cuff handmade in Liberia (shout out to Craft to Heart run by fellow returned Peace Corps Volunteers!)  but just about anything would work, including a nice pair of earrings if you prefer.

Being a lipedema woman, I would be remiss if I didn’t say more about the boots.  This is the first pair of boots I have owned since I was about five years old.  I literally cried six months ago when I zipped them up.  They are Torrid wide calf boots – that’s right the extra wide calf was too wide!  Ladies, they see us.  When I bought them, my calf measured just over 19 inches and here I’m below 18 inches.  I suspect the inflammation I lost during non-dairy January accounts for a lot of that.  These are a size 9 ½ which is my normal shoe size but about a size larger than I usually buy Torrid flats, so bear that in mind when buying. 

You’ll be amazed what a difference a cute outfit can make in your day.  It shifts your energy and everything and everyone feels… a little bit happier.  Hopefully you are inspired to dig into your closet and play with your accessories today.  I’d love to see what you come up with!  Leave me a note in the comments to join the Sturdy conversation. 

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How Pear Shapes Wear Black | Fashion Friday

Many lipedema women say their favorite color is black. It hides lumps, bumps, and imperfections in our legs and is generally believed to be universally slimming. Wonderful! you might think. That must boost their confidence! you might think. Then why do so many black outfits for pear-shaped, lipedema women scream, “please don’t notice me!” Today, in Sturdy Woman’s first Fashion Friday, we’re going to talk about how to style a compression-friendly black outfit that makes you feel so good you want to be seen. Can you tell this outfit literally made me dance? (Suggested background music for reading this post.)

The key to dressing your pear, whether in black or any other color, is to balance your proportions. Most of us are bottom-heavy, meaning our upper bodies are smaller than our lower bodies. You’re going to look and feel your best when your top and bottom look proportional, or similar in size. (Spoiler, almost no one has a perfectly proportional body – this is not just a lipedema thing!) Pattern and color are great tools for either adding something extra to our small parts or de-emphasizing the larger ones.

Notice what I’ve done in my outfit this week. I’ve paired a black skinny jean with a bold printed blazer. This draws attention away from my heavier lower body and toward my upper body. I am not hiding my luscious hips and neither should you! I’m just adding attention up top to balance my figure.

Speaking of not hiding, yes, lipedema ladies can wear skinny jeans and, yes, I am wearing compression under them (see it peeping out at my feet?). These are Torrid’s Lux Skinny Jeans and I love that they are all-day-comfortable but professional enough that I could wear them to the office. Don’t let the name fool you – skinny jeans are for every body. As pears we’re often told to look for wide legs, flares, or bootcuts but slimmer, taped cuts are actually more slimming and help elongate the leg. Tan France, Queer Eye’s stylist, agrees!

In my outfit I’ve taken elongation one step further with a pointed toe shoe, which also helps create the illusion of a long leg. Even though my swelling has drastically improved, I still wear wide shoes and Torrid is my go-to store for cute wide shoes. Be prepared to try a few sizes, though, because they are really inconsistent and I can wear anything from an 8 to a 9.5 depending on the style. These pointed ballet flats run big so I’m wearing an 8.5.

Now, I know you are wondering about that amazing blazer and where it came from. Meet my latest obsession ThredUp. ThredUp sells used clothing and you can get remarkable pieces – many new with tags – for amazing prices. For less than $500 I replaced my entire wardrobe, which was necessary after losing 100lbs, and I have higher quality clothes than I’ve ever been able to afford. Since ThredUp sells used clothes you probably won’t find this identical blazer on there, but you will find something else awesome that fits your personality and style. How much do you think I paid for this beauty? It was priced at $7.99 and, after applying a promo code I found online, I paid $2.66. Yes, you read that right!

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Finally, I am a sucker for accessories and, even though I work from home and no one really sees them, I put some on every day. They make me feel good and that influences the entire day! For this outfit’s simple color story, I used my black tourmaline and copper ring from Pure Impressions. It’s a small, woman-owned business that reminds all its customers they are “made of magic.” I think of that every time I look at my gorgeous ring.

The most important thing to remember about your style, Sturdy Readers, is to wear what makes you feel fantastic. Don’t wear it just because it fits. Don’t wear it because everyone else has it, or because an article (even this one!) told you to. Your unique, gorgeous, magic spirit will shine through strongest when you feel good in your clothes. A great outfit can also do wonders to repair your relationship with your body.

I’d love to see how you are dressing your pear to balance your proportions and feel like the star you are! Drop me a note in the comments or send me an email at