Good as Hell | Music Monday

Happy Tuesday! This should have gone out yesterday, but I messed up the calendar. Oops!

How do you date when you have lipedema and follow a strict keto way of eating?  Confidently.  At least that’s how I’ve approached it. 

My strategy has been as follows.  I put several full-length pictures on my profile and said I was looking for someone who loves my curves as much as I do.  I’m not about to show up for a date and deal with body shame – I have better things to do!  It’s important to discuss lipedema and everything that means, but I don’t lead with that.  I try to let someone get to know me first.  Besides, lipedema is not the most important or interesting thing about me! 

After a few misses, I also learned a dinner date is not a great first date on strict keto… unless you happen to already know the other person has the same lifestyle!  Personally, I felt a little uncomfortable special ordering a big piece of meat within a few minutes of meeting someone and not quite ready to explain what I was doing and why.  With spring almost in full swing, a sunny walk outside, a coffee date, or something artsy are all safer alternatives.  The best date I’ve had so far was at an interactive art installation.  After exploring everything we lay on the floor in the middle of the gallery, letting flowers project on our faces and asking each other questions.  On the next date I told him… everything.

The song that comes to mind most frequently lately is Lizzo’s “Good as Hell”.  My wish for you, Sturdy Readers, is that you can channel some of her confidence for your own relationships.  You deserve only good things and the moment someone makes you feel bad about your body or your lifestyle… do your hair toss, check your nails, and walk your fine ass our the door.  Being alone but feeling good is always better than being with someone who makes you feel like anything less than a diamond.